In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question:
'What kind of man are you looking for?'
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking, ‘Do you really want to know?'
Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes.
She began to expound, ‘As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself?
I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man... or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?'
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.
She quickly corrected his thought & stated, ‘I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.
He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said,
'I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man.
I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.
I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden.
I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.
I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.
I need someone whom I can respect... In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy.
And by the way, I am not looking for him...He will find me.
He will recognize himself in me.
He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me.
God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself.
When she finished her spill, she looked at him.
He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said, 'You are asking a lot.
She replied, "I'm worth a lot".
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Thursday, December 2, 2010
TIPS FOR LIFE- Albert Einstein
10 Amazing Life Lessons You Can Learn From Albert Einstein
Albert Einstein has long been considered a genius by the masses. He was a theoretical physicist, philosopher, author, and is perhaps the most influential scientists to ever live.
Einstein has made great contributions to the scientific world, including the theory of relativity, the founding of relativistic cosmology, the prediction of the deflection of light by gravity, the quantum theory of atomic motion in solids, the zero-point energy concept, and the quantum theory of a monatomic gas which predicted Bose–Einstein condensation, to name a few of his scientific contributions.
Einstein received the 1921 Nobel Prize in Physics “for his services to Theoretical Physics, and especially for his discovery of the law of the photoelectric effect.”
He’s published more than 300 scientific works and over 150 non-scientific works. Einstein is considered the father of modern physics and is probably the most successful scientist there ever was.
1. Follow Your Curiosity
“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”
What piques your curiosity? I am curious as to what causes one person to succeed while another person fails; this is why I’ve spent years studying success. What are you most curious about? The pursuit of your curiosity is the secret to your success.
2. Perseverance is Priceless
“It's not that I'm so smart; it's just that I stay with problems longer.”
Through perseverance the turtle reached the ark. Are you willing to persevere until you get to your intended destination? They say the entire value of the postage stamp consist in its ability to stick to something until it gets there. Be like the postage stamp; finish the race that you’ve started!
3. Focus on the Present
“Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.”
My father always says you cannot ride two horses at the same time. I like to say, you can do anything, but not everything. Learn to be present where you are; give your all to whatever you’re currently doing.
Focused energy is power, and it’s the difference between success and failure.
4. The Imagination is Powerful
“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions. Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
Are you using your imagination daily? Einstein said the imagination is more important than knowledge! Your imagination pre-plays your future. Einstein went on to say, “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.” Are you exercising your “imagination muscles” daily, don’t let something as powerful as your imagination lie dormant.
5. Make Mistakes
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”
Never be afraid of making a mistake. A mistake is not a failure. Mistakes can make you better, smarter and faster, if you utilize them properly. Discover the power of making mistakes. I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again, if you want to succeed, triple the amount of mistakes that you make.
6. Live in the Moment
“I never think of the future - it comes soon enough.”
The only way to properly address your future is to be as present as possible “in the present.”
You cannot “presently” change yesterday or tomorrow, so it’s of supreme importance that you dedicate all of your efforts to “right now.” It’s the only time that matters, it’s the only time there is.
7. Create Value
“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value."
Don’t waste your time trying to be successful, spend your time creating value. If you’re valuable, then you will attract success.
Discover the talents and gifts that you possess, learn how to offer those talents and gifts in a way that most benefits others.
Labor to be valuable and success will chase you down.
8. Don’t Expect Different Results
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
You can’t keep doing the same thing every day and expect different results. In other words, you can’t keep doing the same workout routine and expect to look differently. In order for your life to change, you must change, to the degree that you change your actions and your thinking is to the degree that your life will change.
9. Knowledge Comes From Experience
“Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience.”
Knowledge comes from experience. You can discuss a task, but discussion will only give you a philosophical understanding of it; you must experience the task first hand to “know it.” What’s the lesson? Get experience! Don’t spend your time hiding behind speculative information, go out there and do it, and you will have gained priceless knowledge.
10. Learn the Rules and Then Play Better
“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”
To put it all in simple terms, there are two things that you must do. The first thing you must do is to learn the rules of the game that you’re playing. It doesn’t sound exciting, but it’s vital. Secondly, you must commit to play the game better than anyone else. If you can do these two things, success will be yours!
Albert Einstein has long been considered a genius by the masses. He was a theoretical physicist, philosopher, author, and is perhaps the most influential scientists to ever live.
Einstein has made great contributions to the scientific world, including the theory of relativity, the founding of relativistic cosmology, the prediction of the deflection of light by gravity, the quantum theory of atomic motion in solids, the zero-point energy concept, and the quantum theory of a monatomic gas which predicted Bose–Einstein condensation, to name a few of his scientific contributions.
Einstein received the 1921 Nobel Prize in Physics “for his services to Theoretical Physics, and especially for his discovery of the law of the photoelectric effect.”
He’s published more than 300 scientific works and over 150 non-scientific works. Einstein is considered the father of modern physics and is probably the most successful scientist there ever was.
1. Follow Your Curiosity
“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious.”
What piques your curiosity? I am curious as to what causes one person to succeed while another person fails; this is why I’ve spent years studying success. What are you most curious about? The pursuit of your curiosity is the secret to your success.
2. Perseverance is Priceless
“It's not that I'm so smart; it's just that I stay with problems longer.”
Through perseverance the turtle reached the ark. Are you willing to persevere until you get to your intended destination? They say the entire value of the postage stamp consist in its ability to stick to something until it gets there. Be like the postage stamp; finish the race that you’ve started!
3. Focus on the Present
“Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.”
My father always says you cannot ride two horses at the same time. I like to say, you can do anything, but not everything. Learn to be present where you are; give your all to whatever you’re currently doing.
Focused energy is power, and it’s the difference between success and failure.
4. The Imagination is Powerful
“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions. Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
Are you using your imagination daily? Einstein said the imagination is more important than knowledge! Your imagination pre-plays your future. Einstein went on to say, “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.” Are you exercising your “imagination muscles” daily, don’t let something as powerful as your imagination lie dormant.
5. Make Mistakes
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”
Never be afraid of making a mistake. A mistake is not a failure. Mistakes can make you better, smarter and faster, if you utilize them properly. Discover the power of making mistakes. I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again, if you want to succeed, triple the amount of mistakes that you make.
6. Live in the Moment
“I never think of the future - it comes soon enough.”
The only way to properly address your future is to be as present as possible “in the present.”
You cannot “presently” change yesterday or tomorrow, so it’s of supreme importance that you dedicate all of your efforts to “right now.” It’s the only time that matters, it’s the only time there is.
7. Create Value
“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value."
Don’t waste your time trying to be successful, spend your time creating value. If you’re valuable, then you will attract success.
Discover the talents and gifts that you possess, learn how to offer those talents and gifts in a way that most benefits others.
Labor to be valuable and success will chase you down.
8. Don’t Expect Different Results
“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
You can’t keep doing the same thing every day and expect different results. In other words, you can’t keep doing the same workout routine and expect to look differently. In order for your life to change, you must change, to the degree that you change your actions and your thinking is to the degree that your life will change.
9. Knowledge Comes From Experience
“Information is not knowledge. The only source of knowledge is experience.”
Knowledge comes from experience. You can discuss a task, but discussion will only give you a philosophical understanding of it; you must experience the task first hand to “know it.” What’s the lesson? Get experience! Don’t spend your time hiding behind speculative information, go out there and do it, and you will have gained priceless knowledge.
10. Learn the Rules and Then Play Better
“You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else.”
To put it all in simple terms, there are two things that you must do. The first thing you must do is to learn the rules of the game that you’re playing. It doesn’t sound exciting, but it’s vital. Secondly, you must commit to play the game better than anyone else. If you can do these two things, success will be yours!
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Mental Disposition
Now, its been quite sometime, but fail you I will never. So here I am again. This time round after massive studying, focusing and meditating, am confounded by a few topics that I pray that every Kenya, African and global citizen, basically everyone, will take time to contemplate and see how we are fairing in trying to make the globe a better place. For those who believe in the Mayan theory, well there may be no future generations to talk about as 21/12/2012 is scaringly near! Terrifying huh?
Anyway, I have been thinking for sometime about the role of religion in African setting. And the more I drive my quest into the topic, the more am convinced that this (Religion) is nothing more that some form of escapism from the harsh reality of life in this planet. It is amazing how many people who consider them selves religious, even some leaders in circle of religious matters, barely know the God they claim to worship. They have very little knowledge if any, in the word of that same God they claim to worship. People know their spouse better than they do God. People sacrifice more time and resources to their families and relatives more than they do God. So how well do they know God?
The people that do know their God shall be great and do exploits. Show me a 'christian' who is doing any thing out of the ordinary. Show me a church of Christians focusing on humanitarian issues more that finances and I will show people who know their God.
This is something that will require your input on what religion means to you. And I will tell you what it means to me. And from there, we will learn of the great mysteries that lie within us for a much more fulfilling life.
So hit my blog..
Anyway, I have been thinking for sometime about the role of religion in African setting. And the more I drive my quest into the topic, the more am convinced that this (Religion) is nothing more that some form of escapism from the harsh reality of life in this planet. It is amazing how many people who consider them selves religious, even some leaders in circle of religious matters, barely know the God they claim to worship. They have very little knowledge if any, in the word of that same God they claim to worship. People know their spouse better than they do God. People sacrifice more time and resources to their families and relatives more than they do God. So how well do they know God?
The people that do know their God shall be great and do exploits. Show me a 'christian' who is doing any thing out of the ordinary. Show me a church of Christians focusing on humanitarian issues more that finances and I will show people who know their God.
This is something that will require your input on what religion means to you. And I will tell you what it means to me. And from there, we will learn of the great mysteries that lie within us for a much more fulfilling life.
So hit my blog..
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Nuggets you may find useful.
In the month of March 2010, I did publish daily lessons for us all to consider and maybe put them to meaningful use. Well, I am sure that they are timeless pieces of wisdom that everyone of us can practice for increased profitability and satisfaction. So I have decided to compile them here, just for you, my reader.
1: You are on your own.
2: Do not trust anyone. And it helps to suspect yourself too.
3: People care about you. But don't bank on that. You are not first in their priorities.
4:Believe in yourself. Don't flatter yourself though, there is always someone who is a notch higher.
5: Nothing is what it seems like. There is always an explanation for anything. Yes, anything.
6: Ignorance breeds ignorance. Never ignore, or leave anything to chance.
7: Ever heard the saying 'Always follow your heart'? True, but that's not to substitute your head. Follow your heart and use your head.
8: Never compromise, unless your life depends on it. Every compromise is like a surrender. It simply invites new demands.
9: Whatever anyone can do, everyone else can do. There is no secret knowledge. No one knows anything that can't be found on a shelve in a public library.
10: Things you do not value will never add any value to your life. If you have no use for something, get rid of it completely, otherwise it will just blur you vision.
11: In this life, everyone matters. Talk with the crowds without loosing your virtue, and walk with kings without loosing the common touch.
12: Time is the most critical, yet a weird resource. It weighs most on those who have it least. So do what you must now, or procrastinate at your own peril!
13: Most of the times we waste a lot of time chasing things that we could have caught by just standing still. Take time to evaluate your goals and strategies.
14: Remember that the most beautiful things in this world are the most useless. Peacocks and lilies for example. You need a stronger basis than appearance.
15: Whatever it is that you do, do it with your best effort, even for the simplest tasks. Otherwise no one will ever give you the important tasks.
16: A good face is a powerful letter of recommendation. So wipe off that frown and wear a smile. And its cheap too.
17: Make sure that you know exactly where you are heading in life. You may as well be already there, or more likely, on the wrong road.
18: Maturity has a lot to do with the experiences you have gone through and what they have taught you. It however has nothing to do with the number of birthdays you have celebrated.
19: Never use permanent solutions to fix temporary problems, and never confuse urgency with importance.
20: In a negotiation, the most you can ever get is what you ask for. Be sure to offer what you have and charge whatever you like. State your price, because if you don't you have yourself to blame.
21:Always have courage to do what you must. No one can ever do what you do better than you do. And one man with courage makes a majority.
22: Never throw mud at people. You may miss the mark; but you must have dirty hands.
23: Failure is sometimes God's own tool for carving some of the finest outlines in the character of His children. So be afraid, but not of failure.
24: Always be diplomatic. This means that you be polite enough to let other people have your way.
25: If you blame other people for your failures, be careful enough to credit them for your successes.
26: Fate chooses your relations. You choose your friends. Do it wisely.
27: Experience is the worst of teachers, don't be fooled. She gives her exams before the lesson. Its like life offering you a comb when you are already bald. So please, get it right the first time!
28: There are two types of failures; the ones who think they have never failed, and the ones who actually failed. I'd rather you fail, for only then do you have a chance to get up!
29: You can never run in the Olympics until you learn how to tie your laces. First things first. Don't be caught up in the details.
30: The last lesson is that your first duty as a human being is to subdue fear. Then, and only then can you do the 29 lessons. Thanks people! Its been my pleasure bringing this to you!
1: You are on your own.
2: Do not trust anyone. And it helps to suspect yourself too.
3: People care about you. But don't bank on that. You are not first in their priorities.
4:Believe in yourself. Don't flatter yourself though, there is always someone who is a notch higher.
5: Nothing is what it seems like. There is always an explanation for anything. Yes, anything.
6: Ignorance breeds ignorance. Never ignore, or leave anything to chance.
7: Ever heard the saying 'Always follow your heart'? True, but that's not to substitute your head. Follow your heart and use your head.
8: Never compromise, unless your life depends on it. Every compromise is like a surrender. It simply invites new demands.
9: Whatever anyone can do, everyone else can do. There is no secret knowledge. No one knows anything that can't be found on a shelve in a public library.
10: Things you do not value will never add any value to your life. If you have no use for something, get rid of it completely, otherwise it will just blur you vision.
11: In this life, everyone matters. Talk with the crowds without loosing your virtue, and walk with kings without loosing the common touch.
12: Time is the most critical, yet a weird resource. It weighs most on those who have it least. So do what you must now, or procrastinate at your own peril!
13: Most of the times we waste a lot of time chasing things that we could have caught by just standing still. Take time to evaluate your goals and strategies.
14: Remember that the most beautiful things in this world are the most useless. Peacocks and lilies for example. You need a stronger basis than appearance.
15: Whatever it is that you do, do it with your best effort, even for the simplest tasks. Otherwise no one will ever give you the important tasks.
16: A good face is a powerful letter of recommendation. So wipe off that frown and wear a smile. And its cheap too.
17: Make sure that you know exactly where you are heading in life. You may as well be already there, or more likely, on the wrong road.
18: Maturity has a lot to do with the experiences you have gone through and what they have taught you. It however has nothing to do with the number of birthdays you have celebrated.
19: Never use permanent solutions to fix temporary problems, and never confuse urgency with importance.
20: In a negotiation, the most you can ever get is what you ask for. Be sure to offer what you have and charge whatever you like. State your price, because if you don't you have yourself to blame.
21:Always have courage to do what you must. No one can ever do what you do better than you do. And one man with courage makes a majority.
22: Never throw mud at people. You may miss the mark; but you must have dirty hands.
23: Failure is sometimes God's own tool for carving some of the finest outlines in the character of His children. So be afraid, but not of failure.
24: Always be diplomatic. This means that you be polite enough to let other people have your way.
25: If you blame other people for your failures, be careful enough to credit them for your successes.
26: Fate chooses your relations. You choose your friends. Do it wisely.
27: Experience is the worst of teachers, don't be fooled. She gives her exams before the lesson. Its like life offering you a comb when you are already bald. So please, get it right the first time!
28: There are two types of failures; the ones who think they have never failed, and the ones who actually failed. I'd rather you fail, for only then do you have a chance to get up!
29: You can never run in the Olympics until you learn how to tie your laces. First things first. Don't be caught up in the details.
30: The last lesson is that your first duty as a human being is to subdue fear. Then, and only then can you do the 29 lessons. Thanks people! Its been my pleasure bringing this to you!
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Unfinished Business
This is an extract from my book, Unfinished Business, set to be published soon. So look out for your copy.
"..Jeff could not comprehend at any level whatsoever, what spell she had cast over him. And Stacie was acting so calm, that he felt almost offended. She had openly and firmly told him that she had finally met a young freshman, and that she was convinced that he was the love of her life. Until that day Jeff had always held a firm though shaky belief that someday she would come around, see that he was the perfect gentleman, and although she never had that kind of attraction towards him, he believed no better man existed.
After spending that night with him in naked sincerity, Jeff needed no more conviction that she was his, and he was hers, and that they belonged together. They had not made love, but Jeff was more than lucky to have had a kiss and eight short hours of physical contact, thus emotions had crowded his head; the little spurs of self preservation. The news of how she had been developing feelings for some other guy caught him off guard, like a whiff or perfume.To hear her say those words stunt all his sense of possibility. It led him to some serious thoughts.
This life can be pretty intimidating at times. It sometimes presents opportunities so seductive, with such a feeling of divinity, and the best we can do is just watch them; watch them get away and never come back. I mean, how do you explain those angelic glaces and stares of a person of the opposite sex, seated across the table, not a chance of knowing their name, or anything else for that matter, except for the color of their eyes, and if keen the color of their clothes?
Jeff could only imagine she and him, standing, a thousand words at a time.
They had started off two years before that, in their freshman year.
The moment Jeff saw her in a hurried gasp, she was very busy trying to join up queues for finalization of her registration. He had been instantly attracted to her sober face, full burst, composed stature, a perfect figure and a smile with heavenly grace.That moment had however lasted only a few seconds, three precisely. Jeff, having seen bigger and better, did not consider that a once-off happening, and was reluctant to admit he was, quite literary, swept off his feet."
"..Jeff could not comprehend at any level whatsoever, what spell she had cast over him. And Stacie was acting so calm, that he felt almost offended. She had openly and firmly told him that she had finally met a young freshman, and that she was convinced that he was the love of her life. Until that day Jeff had always held a firm though shaky belief that someday she would come around, see that he was the perfect gentleman, and although she never had that kind of attraction towards him, he believed no better man existed.
After spending that night with him in naked sincerity, Jeff needed no more conviction that she was his, and he was hers, and that they belonged together. They had not made love, but Jeff was more than lucky to have had a kiss and eight short hours of physical contact, thus emotions had crowded his head; the little spurs of self preservation. The news of how she had been developing feelings for some other guy caught him off guard, like a whiff or perfume.To hear her say those words stunt all his sense of possibility. It led him to some serious thoughts.
This life can be pretty intimidating at times. It sometimes presents opportunities so seductive, with such a feeling of divinity, and the best we can do is just watch them; watch them get away and never come back. I mean, how do you explain those angelic glaces and stares of a person of the opposite sex, seated across the table, not a chance of knowing their name, or anything else for that matter, except for the color of their eyes, and if keen the color of their clothes?
Jeff could only imagine she and him, standing, a thousand words at a time.
They had started off two years before that, in their freshman year.
The moment Jeff saw her in a hurried gasp, she was very busy trying to join up queues for finalization of her registration. He had been instantly attracted to her sober face, full burst, composed stature, a perfect figure and a smile with heavenly grace.That moment had however lasted only a few seconds, three precisely. Jeff, having seen bigger and better, did not consider that a once-off happening, and was reluctant to admit he was, quite literary, swept off his feet."
Thursday, January 14, 2010
A Lesson from Alexander the Great.
The great Greek King, Alexander, after conquering many kingdoms was returning home. On the way home, he fell ill and was bedridden for months. With death close, Alexander realized how his conquests, his great army, his sharp sword and all his wealth were of no use.
He called his generals and said, "I will depart from this world soon, but I have three wishes." With tears flowing down their cheeks, the generals agreed to abide by heir king's wishes.
"My first desire is that", said Alexander, "my physicians alone must carry my coffin. Secondly, when my coffin is being carried to the grave,the path leading to the grave yard must be strewn with gold, silver and precious stones which I have collected in my treasury. My third and last wish is that both my hands should be kept dangling out of the coffin."
The people who had gathered there wondered at the kings strange wishes, but no one dared to question. Alexander's favorite general kissed his hands and pressed them to his heart. "O king, we assure you that your wishes will all be fulfilled. But tell us, why do you make such strange wishes?"
Alexander took a deep breath, and said, "I would like the world to know of the three lessons I have just learnt. I want my physicians to carry my coffin because people should realize that no doctor can really cure anybody. They are powerless and can not save a person from the clutches of death. So let not people take life for granted.
The second wish of strewing gold, sand other riches on the way to the graveyard is to tell people that not even a fraction of gold can be taken by me. Let people realize that it is a sheer waste of time to chase wealth.
And about my third wish of having my hands dangling out of the coffin, I want people to know that I can empty handed into this world and empty handed I go out of this world."
Alexander's last words were, "Bury my body, do not build any monument, keep my hands outside, so that the world knows the person who won the world had nothing in his hands when dying."
He called his generals and said, "I will depart from this world soon, but I have three wishes." With tears flowing down their cheeks, the generals agreed to abide by heir king's wishes.
"My first desire is that", said Alexander, "my physicians alone must carry my coffin. Secondly, when my coffin is being carried to the grave,the path leading to the grave yard must be strewn with gold, silver and precious stones which I have collected in my treasury. My third and last wish is that both my hands should be kept dangling out of the coffin."
The people who had gathered there wondered at the kings strange wishes, but no one dared to question. Alexander's favorite general kissed his hands and pressed them to his heart. "O king, we assure you that your wishes will all be fulfilled. But tell us, why do you make such strange wishes?"
Alexander took a deep breath, and said, "I would like the world to know of the three lessons I have just learnt. I want my physicians to carry my coffin because people should realize that no doctor can really cure anybody. They are powerless and can not save a person from the clutches of death. So let not people take life for granted.
The second wish of strewing gold, sand other riches on the way to the graveyard is to tell people that not even a fraction of gold can be taken by me. Let people realize that it is a sheer waste of time to chase wealth.
And about my third wish of having my hands dangling out of the coffin, I want people to know that I can empty handed into this world and empty handed I go out of this world."
Alexander's last words were, "Bury my body, do not build any monument, keep my hands outside, so that the world knows the person who won the world had nothing in his hands when dying."
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