This is an extract from my book, Unfinished Business, set to be published soon. So look out for your copy.
"..Jeff could not comprehend at any level whatsoever, what spell she had cast over him. And Stacie was acting so calm, that he felt almost offended. She had openly and firmly told him that she had finally met a young freshman, and that she was convinced that he was the love of her life. Until that day Jeff had always held a firm though shaky belief that someday she would come around, see that he was the perfect gentleman, and although she never had that kind of attraction towards him, he believed no better man existed.
After spending that night with him in naked sincerity, Jeff needed no more conviction that she was his, and he was hers, and that they belonged together. They had not made love, but Jeff was more than lucky to have had a kiss and eight short hours of physical contact, thus emotions had crowded his head; the little spurs of self preservation. The news of how she had been developing feelings for some other guy caught him off guard, like a whiff or perfume.To hear her say those words stunt all his sense of possibility. It led him to some serious thoughts.
This life can be pretty intimidating at times. It sometimes presents opportunities so seductive, with such a feeling of divinity, and the best we can do is just watch them; watch them get away and never come back. I mean, how do you explain those angelic glaces and stares of a person of the opposite sex, seated across the table, not a chance of knowing their name, or anything else for that matter, except for the color of their eyes, and if keen the color of their clothes?
Jeff could only imagine she and him, standing, a thousand words at a time.
They had started off two years before that, in their freshman year.
The moment Jeff saw her in a hurried gasp, she was very busy trying to join up queues for finalization of her registration. He had been instantly attracted to her sober face, full burst, composed stature, a perfect figure and a smile with heavenly grace.That moment had however lasted only a few seconds, three precisely. Jeff, having seen bigger and better, did not consider that a once-off happening, and was reluctant to admit he was, quite literary, swept off his feet."
Thursday, February 18, 2010
Thursday, January 14, 2010
A Lesson from Alexander the Great.
The great Greek King, Alexander, after conquering many kingdoms was returning home. On the way home, he fell ill and was bedridden for months. With death close, Alexander realized how his conquests, his great army, his sharp sword and all his wealth were of no use.
He called his generals and said, "I will depart from this world soon, but I have three wishes." With tears flowing down their cheeks, the generals agreed to abide by heir king's wishes.
"My first desire is that", said Alexander, "my physicians alone must carry my coffin. Secondly, when my coffin is being carried to the grave,the path leading to the grave yard must be strewn with gold, silver and precious stones which I have collected in my treasury. My third and last wish is that both my hands should be kept dangling out of the coffin."
The people who had gathered there wondered at the kings strange wishes, but no one dared to question. Alexander's favorite general kissed his hands and pressed them to his heart. "O king, we assure you that your wishes will all be fulfilled. But tell us, why do you make such strange wishes?"
Alexander took a deep breath, and said, "I would like the world to know of the three lessons I have just learnt. I want my physicians to carry my coffin because people should realize that no doctor can really cure anybody. They are powerless and can not save a person from the clutches of death. So let not people take life for granted.
The second wish of strewing gold, sand other riches on the way to the graveyard is to tell people that not even a fraction of gold can be taken by me. Let people realize that it is a sheer waste of time to chase wealth.
And about my third wish of having my hands dangling out of the coffin, I want people to know that I can empty handed into this world and empty handed I go out of this world."
Alexander's last words were, "Bury my body, do not build any monument, keep my hands outside, so that the world knows the person who won the world had nothing in his hands when dying."
He called his generals and said, "I will depart from this world soon, but I have three wishes." With tears flowing down their cheeks, the generals agreed to abide by heir king's wishes.
"My first desire is that", said Alexander, "my physicians alone must carry my coffin. Secondly, when my coffin is being carried to the grave,the path leading to the grave yard must be strewn with gold, silver and precious stones which I have collected in my treasury. My third and last wish is that both my hands should be kept dangling out of the coffin."
The people who had gathered there wondered at the kings strange wishes, but no one dared to question. Alexander's favorite general kissed his hands and pressed them to his heart. "O king, we assure you that your wishes will all be fulfilled. But tell us, why do you make such strange wishes?"
Alexander took a deep breath, and said, "I would like the world to know of the three lessons I have just learnt. I want my physicians to carry my coffin because people should realize that no doctor can really cure anybody. They are powerless and can not save a person from the clutches of death. So let not people take life for granted.
The second wish of strewing gold, sand other riches on the way to the graveyard is to tell people that not even a fraction of gold can be taken by me. Let people realize that it is a sheer waste of time to chase wealth.
And about my third wish of having my hands dangling out of the coffin, I want people to know that I can empty handed into this world and empty handed I go out of this world."
Alexander's last words were, "Bury my body, do not build any monument, keep my hands outside, so that the world knows the person who won the world had nothing in his hands when dying."
Saturday, November 28, 2009
These rules are directed towards the dumb girls (with no common sense) who make the good girls look bad (so obviously, only a dumb girl would get mad). You say you want honesty, so here you have it:
Rule #1: Going to clubs, bars, parties, dressing skanky (which shows insecurity), acting skanky, posting skanky pics of yourself and getting wild isn’t attracting decent guys. If you want a good guy, stop going for the partiers, the bad asses, and life of the party guys with a million friends (there's no such thing as a bad boy with a good heart, so stop dreaming). And seriously, anyone who gets you into those scenes doesn’t care about your well being. Don’t let people who you probably won’t see in 15 years dictate your life (like if they disapprove of the guy you're dating. So what, you're the one dating him, not them.) Parties, bars, clubs, BBQ's, tailgates, drinking, etc....is that all you know how to do? You drink something that tastes bad, breaks your bank, makes you act stupid and vomit, and the next morning gives you headaches. Wow, you're cool now, lol.
#2: It takes most men about 5 minutes to know whether or not they’d commit to you. Men like "simple" women, not women who are fake, stupid and can’t think for themselves (and it’s so easy to tell them apart). Remember the first time you got drunk (or stoned)? I’m sure you didn’t want to start, but a "friend" pushed you, you did it, and now you like it! That shows you can’t think for yourself. Sadly, people who are truly themselves, and stick to their values and beliefs tend to be alone and get overlooked often, but that’s not their problem. Just because some people use their brain, it doesn’t mean they’re boring. People who can't enjoy their life without alcohol, drugs, partying, and all their friends, are much more pathetic than people who can enjoy life without all that.
#3: You need common sense and street smarts to survive in this world, not a paper that says "degree". I know too many people with PhDs and MBA's who are working sh!t jobs because of bad decisions they made. Who cares if you're too tall, too short, thick (which most men like), too skinny, deaf, live at home, etc...it doesn’t change you. A true friend and lover will accept you exactly how you are. Everyone has flaws, imperfections, baggage, and issues (though there's a fine line between a flaw and ignorance/stupidity).
#4: This is a rule that girls never understand: Girls don’t like guys who whine, are bitter, negative, insecure, clingy, stereotype, judge, etc. These things are human nature, we all do it, girls especially! I’ve never met a girl who isn't whiny, insecure, stereotype, and bitter like it’s her job (just look at most girls' profiles, most say "omg don’t message me if..."). Do you honestly think people wake up one morning and decide to be bitter/whiny for no reason? Maybe if people were nicer to one another, people wouldn’t be like that. And honestly, you girls will date any guy as long as he’s hot, lol. You'll date guys who are drunks, criminals, don’t have high school diplomas, controlling...yet you won’t date a clingy guy? Lastly, the reason jerks don’t whine, is because they have no reason to! They’re jerks, and still get girls!
#5: Why are girls so mean to nice guys? Because nice guys don’t talk back. A girl will never mouth off a jerk because he will tear her heart apart. So when she finds a guy who will take her whiny attitude, she mouths him off (then wonders why no guy wants to be nice to her, lol). Yes, girls love the 'edge' bad boy thing........till they get heartbroken lol). Girls are turning nice guys into jerks everyday because of all this.
#6: If you think nice guys are boring, you'll think husbands and marriages are boring. Jerks get girlfriends, nice guys get wives. Who's going to make a better husband and father? The bad ass drunk, or the nice dude? Some girls say they dig tough guys because they feel more protected (umm, protected from what? lol). Plus, girls don’t dislike overly nice whiny guys, because if some tall, hot tough guy was being whiny, bitter, and knitting, girls would fall in love lol. It’s just most nice guys aren’t "hot". Girls go for jerks in hopes to convert him to a nice guy, but trust me, you will fail. You wont change men.
#7: To girls it’s all about looks (height especially, and you shouldn’t demand a guy be any taller than you). Guys don’t care for looks, they care for sex. All a girl has to do to get a guy is spread her legs. Looks fade: We all know someone in high school who was butt ugly and 10 years later is smokin hot. The more you bond with someone, the more attractive they become anyway. If some unattractive guy came up to you at a social event and started talking, you'd talk, get along, and eventually really like the guy and may end up dating. Now if that guy wrote you online, you'd take one look at his picture and never write back.
#8: Biggest rule of all: Girls are too superficial. They watch too many romance, fairy tale movies and think its reality. Girls date thinking love is easy, then dump him months/years later because she realizes its not easy and she just wants to have fun (women do call for the majority of divorces). If you think you're going to date/be married to someone and never argue, never be bored, always seeing each other and having fun, talking, laughing, never being hurt, and never getting nasty and bitter at each other; you're living in a dream world. Did our grandparents do all that? No, and they lasted! Im a satirical blogger so humor is great, but even I know not to expect it all day.
#9: Girls love drama and games. They love to play games like 'hard to get', and guys don’t. This is why guys don’t like to give compliments, because you'll just play 'hard to get', and when you do, he's going to run off to his backup girl, which all guys have. Why? Because no guy trusts his girlfriend 100% percent, no guy! Why? Because girls can be really naive and ignorant when they go out, and all guys know that girls are always the ones running away the moment something goes wrong. Relationships are not one way streets, you have to give and get, talk stuff out like adults, and you have to sacrifice a little.
#10: Thanks to girls, dating is turning into a game. If a guy mentions sex, politics, religion, money, his ex's, jokes, doesn’t pay on the first date (dutch is the best way to go, why pay for someone you may never see again?), doesn’t tell you what you want to hear, he's done. (If a guy and girl are going to date, shouldn’t they be able to talk about anything together?) Sadly, that’s all dating is: A game. And it’s a game that girls will never win, because guys know girls more than girls know themselves lol. It's true, we guys know that the girls who say they dont put out, are the ones who do. The girls who say they cant stand drama and games, are the ones who actually love it. Never say "I dont care what you think!". All guys know that females care "too much" what everyone thinks! lol. We guys can tell just by looking at your pics and profile, exactly what kind of girl you are. Yes, girls are that predictable.
#11: Every time a guy mentions anything sexual, the girl runs off. Why?! Sex is the most natural, normal thing alive. You wouldn’t look at the other gender if it wasn’t for sex. Girls are far hornier and want sex more than guys do (they just hide it, which shows dishonesty). In relationships, it’s the girls who want to fool around all the time (and if he's not good or doesn't do it often, she'll dump him, lol). Waiting till marriage is fine, as long as you'll do other stuff. Just look at how girls dress, act, dance, etc and it’s obvious they are horny as hell. No good guy wants a slut, but all guys want a freak in the bed. All guys know that "keeping" a girl is all about how good you are in bed lol. Getting a girl though, is all about telling her what she wants to hear and not being yourself lol.
#12: Some guys pretend they don’t care for sex (then use you for it lol). Ladies, all guys care! So if a guy mentions sex, he’s an honest guy! You want honesty? I LOVE legs and oral sex. Some girls say they don’t want to do things on dates because it’s whoreish or because they’ve put out and the guy never called them. Well guess what, you girls are no better! We guys spend our hard earned money on you, and you don’t call us back! There's nothing whoreish or wrong about fooling around as long as you two like one another. But girls say "you risk stds that way", which is an excuse. Did you and your ex's ever get tested? Probably not, so how do you know he’s clean? Lastly, stop being co ckteasers (like sucking on a guy's finger then stopping.) No, finish what you start.
#13: You can’t expect a spark, connection, chemistry (words you all love to use, yet can’t define lol) on a first date. Were you and your best friend, best friends right away? Of course not. Again, the more you chill with someone, the more attractive they become. First dates are supposed to be weird and awkward; you're hanging out with someone you barely know! Speaking of words, girls say it’s about confidence (even though girls lack it), yet none of them can tell us what 'confidence' means lol. They're just in love with "saying" those words. It’s simple: If he's hot, there's a connection lol.
#14: This is very important: Girls want a "man". Well guess what, men want a "woman". No girl wants a guy who knits, sews, bakes cakes, watches/enjoys cheerleading, flowers, etc, right? Well no man wants a girl who drinks like a fish, has a sailor mouth, watches/enjoys ufc (or does that), or acts all tough. You're not impressing "good" guys by being into that stuff. Females are becoming more un-lady like, and it’s a big reason why relationships don’t last as long and aren’t as healthy as they used to be. Sure, guys will date those kinds of girls (for ass), but they wont commit to them (unless it’s for ass). You want us to act like men? Well you act like women. Girls wonder if there's any good guys left, well we guys wonder if there's any "women" left lol.
#15: Girls are difficult and complicated. I know so many girls who refuse to chill with girls because "they are too difficult" (there’s a reason most world and company leaders aren’t women, lol). Girls expect too much out of life, relationships and people, whereas guys are simple. Guys can sit around all week watching TV and talking, and they’ll still call each other the next day. But girls? You won’t hear from her after the first day if you do that lol. Ladies, the world isn’t going anywhere! No guy is going to get in debt and take you out everyday.
16: You want to know what pleases men? Food, football, and women. Make us lunch, put on our football game (watch it with us as long as you're not whiny), and when the game is over put on a cute outfit and take us upstairs, that’s it! But women; you have to take them out everyday, make a picnic, buy flowers, buy a necklace, go here, go there...yikes! Here's a rule: If you won’t act/dress like a Victoria's Secret girl, don’t expect us men to act/dress like soap opera guys.
#17: Think "realistically". Everyone wants to be with someone who's gorgeous and amazing in bed. But realistically, 85% of people wont. Until you learn to accept that, you'll be disappointed. Also, get used to sitting around doing nothing, because that's how relationships/marriages are after a few months. Actually, girls dont mind sitting around doing nothing, as long as their boyfriend is hot lol. This is why I say: Girls aren’t in love; they’re in love with the "thought" of being in love. They don’t want love; they want excitement (which are two different things lol). Be realistic.
#18: When men get older, they do start getting serious about life, money and their careers. Most young people treat life like it’s a joke, then they get older, see reality and go "oops!" At least men are smart enough to admit that they do stupid things, that their friends aren’t 'real friends', and that they’ll probably regret their actions in 20 years. Girls though, seriously think they’re going to be young and stupid forever lol. Kenya is a serious country (unfortunately), if you want to live life like it’s a huge party and joke forever, move to Europe. And it doesn’t matter what age you are, you can "live up" at any age.
#19: Girls say they want honesty, but guys can’t be honest. Every time a guy is honest with you, you call him a jerk. If he does the slightest thing wrong, he’s a jerk. If he says one bad thing about himself or life, he’s a negative pessimist. If he says one thing good about himself, he’s cocky. If he’s nice to you, he’s a pushover. If he doesn’t help you out one day, he’s a jerk. If a girl says bad things about guys, guys just laugh and play along. But if a guy says bad thing about girls, girls get bitchy and defensive (because they know it’s true). It's okay for girls to reject guys, but if a guy rejects a girl, it makes him a jerk who's only after sex. Wow, girls cannot handle rejection, can they?
#20: Men are more attracted to introverts. Extroverted girls, girls with big jobs and big cars are intimidating to guys (unless all he wants is sex). Sadly, nowadays more and more people get these big jobs and put those jobs ahead of their family and love. We guys would rather a sweet faithful housewife, than a girl who makes big bank, can’t shut up and is always out. It's funny how the "majority" of girls nowadays are big extroverts, highly educated, bar hoppers, or partiers. Hmm, I wonder why. This is why. You dont see "many" nerdy introverts in pubs, do you? Maybe that should tell you something..
#21: I love girls and their "omg live everyday like it’s your last". Umm, if today was your last day, you'd be having sex all day. Or "life’s too short". Umm, life is the longest thing you have, lol. Or how about the "I like to have fun sometimes!” I like to have fun everyday! Oh but "fun" doesn’t just mean 'drink, party, be wild and stupid' to some of us. Or, "I have the best friends ever!” Yeah, till you both have a crush on the same guy, or til you ditch the party scene (then see how many of your friends still talk to you). Speaking of friends, you're not approachable when you're with your friends.
#22: So you may be thinking, "what girl wants to date a guy who talks sh!t about girls?!” Well I guess you don’t want any guy then, because all guys do it, just not publicly. See, the more ignorant girls are, the more ass a guy gets, so guys want girls to be ignorant. And I don’t care if all of your friends are guys; guys say totally different things when just one girl is around, as opposed to when it’s all guys.
#23: I found an article by a dating expert. She says the best ways to see if a guy is a keeper are: He has his act together (isn't a party boy). He puts you first (like if he makes dinner, he asks which piece you want first). He's not afraid of your germs (if you get sick, he offers to come over and take care of you). He's a family man (cares about his/your family). He is a cheerleader for you. He listens to you and remembers the little things (like how did your work meeting go?). Seeing you happy, makes him happy. He compromises, doesn't point the finger and yell. Hmm, sounds like a "Nice Guy", you know, the kinds you reject and criticize all the time? Lol. Maybe I’m wrong about all of this, but there's a reason why so many of you have been here forever and still single.
Rule #1: Going to clubs, bars, parties, dressing skanky (which shows insecurity), acting skanky, posting skanky pics of yourself and getting wild isn’t attracting decent guys. If you want a good guy, stop going for the partiers, the bad asses, and life of the party guys with a million friends (there's no such thing as a bad boy with a good heart, so stop dreaming). And seriously, anyone who gets you into those scenes doesn’t care about your well being. Don’t let people who you probably won’t see in 15 years dictate your life (like if they disapprove of the guy you're dating. So what, you're the one dating him, not them.) Parties, bars, clubs, BBQ's, tailgates, drinking, etc....is that all you know how to do? You drink something that tastes bad, breaks your bank, makes you act stupid and vomit, and the next morning gives you headaches. Wow, you're cool now, lol.
#2: It takes most men about 5 minutes to know whether or not they’d commit to you. Men like "simple" women, not women who are fake, stupid and can’t think for themselves (and it’s so easy to tell them apart). Remember the first time you got drunk (or stoned)? I’m sure you didn’t want to start, but a "friend" pushed you, you did it, and now you like it! That shows you can’t think for yourself. Sadly, people who are truly themselves, and stick to their values and beliefs tend to be alone and get overlooked often, but that’s not their problem. Just because some people use their brain, it doesn’t mean they’re boring. People who can't enjoy their life without alcohol, drugs, partying, and all their friends, are much more pathetic than people who can enjoy life without all that.
#3: You need common sense and street smarts to survive in this world, not a paper that says "degree". I know too many people with PhDs and MBA's who are working sh!t jobs because of bad decisions they made. Who cares if you're too tall, too short, thick (which most men like), too skinny, deaf, live at home, etc...it doesn’t change you. A true friend and lover will accept you exactly how you are. Everyone has flaws, imperfections, baggage, and issues (though there's a fine line between a flaw and ignorance/stupidity).
#4: This is a rule that girls never understand: Girls don’t like guys who whine, are bitter, negative, insecure, clingy, stereotype, judge, etc. These things are human nature, we all do it, girls especially! I’ve never met a girl who isn't whiny, insecure, stereotype, and bitter like it’s her job (just look at most girls' profiles, most say "omg don’t message me if..."). Do you honestly think people wake up one morning and decide to be bitter/whiny for no reason? Maybe if people were nicer to one another, people wouldn’t be like that. And honestly, you girls will date any guy as long as he’s hot, lol. You'll date guys who are drunks, criminals, don’t have high school diplomas, controlling...yet you won’t date a clingy guy? Lastly, the reason jerks don’t whine, is because they have no reason to! They’re jerks, and still get girls!
#5: Why are girls so mean to nice guys? Because nice guys don’t talk back. A girl will never mouth off a jerk because he will tear her heart apart. So when she finds a guy who will take her whiny attitude, she mouths him off (then wonders why no guy wants to be nice to her, lol). Yes, girls love the 'edge' bad boy thing........till they get heartbroken lol). Girls are turning nice guys into jerks everyday because of all this.
#6: If you think nice guys are boring, you'll think husbands and marriages are boring. Jerks get girlfriends, nice guys get wives. Who's going to make a better husband and father? The bad ass drunk, or the nice dude? Some girls say they dig tough guys because they feel more protected (umm, protected from what? lol). Plus, girls don’t dislike overly nice whiny guys, because if some tall, hot tough guy was being whiny, bitter, and knitting, girls would fall in love lol. It’s just most nice guys aren’t "hot". Girls go for jerks in hopes to convert him to a nice guy, but trust me, you will fail. You wont change men.
#7: To girls it’s all about looks (height especially, and you shouldn’t demand a guy be any taller than you). Guys don’t care for looks, they care for sex. All a girl has to do to get a guy is spread her legs. Looks fade: We all know someone in high school who was butt ugly and 10 years later is smokin hot. The more you bond with someone, the more attractive they become anyway. If some unattractive guy came up to you at a social event and started talking, you'd talk, get along, and eventually really like the guy and may end up dating. Now if that guy wrote you online, you'd take one look at his picture and never write back.
#8: Biggest rule of all: Girls are too superficial. They watch too many romance, fairy tale movies and think its reality. Girls date thinking love is easy, then dump him months/years later because she realizes its not easy and she just wants to have fun (women do call for the majority of divorces). If you think you're going to date/be married to someone and never argue, never be bored, always seeing each other and having fun, talking, laughing, never being hurt, and never getting nasty and bitter at each other; you're living in a dream world. Did our grandparents do all that? No, and they lasted! Im a satirical blogger so humor is great, but even I know not to expect it all day.
#9: Girls love drama and games. They love to play games like 'hard to get', and guys don’t. This is why guys don’t like to give compliments, because you'll just play 'hard to get', and when you do, he's going to run off to his backup girl, which all guys have. Why? Because no guy trusts his girlfriend 100% percent, no guy! Why? Because girls can be really naive and ignorant when they go out, and all guys know that girls are always the ones running away the moment something goes wrong. Relationships are not one way streets, you have to give and get, talk stuff out like adults, and you have to sacrifice a little.
#10: Thanks to girls, dating is turning into a game. If a guy mentions sex, politics, religion, money, his ex's, jokes, doesn’t pay on the first date (dutch is the best way to go, why pay for someone you may never see again?), doesn’t tell you what you want to hear, he's done. (If a guy and girl are going to date, shouldn’t they be able to talk about anything together?) Sadly, that’s all dating is: A game. And it’s a game that girls will never win, because guys know girls more than girls know themselves lol. It's true, we guys know that the girls who say they dont put out, are the ones who do. The girls who say they cant stand drama and games, are the ones who actually love it. Never say "I dont care what you think!". All guys know that females care "too much" what everyone thinks! lol. We guys can tell just by looking at your pics and profile, exactly what kind of girl you are. Yes, girls are that predictable.
#11: Every time a guy mentions anything sexual, the girl runs off. Why?! Sex is the most natural, normal thing alive. You wouldn’t look at the other gender if it wasn’t for sex. Girls are far hornier and want sex more than guys do (they just hide it, which shows dishonesty). In relationships, it’s the girls who want to fool around all the time (and if he's not good or doesn't do it often, she'll dump him, lol). Waiting till marriage is fine, as long as you'll do other stuff. Just look at how girls dress, act, dance, etc and it’s obvious they are horny as hell. No good guy wants a slut, but all guys want a freak in the bed. All guys know that "keeping" a girl is all about how good you are in bed lol. Getting a girl though, is all about telling her what she wants to hear and not being yourself lol.
#12: Some guys pretend they don’t care for sex (then use you for it lol). Ladies, all guys care! So if a guy mentions sex, he’s an honest guy! You want honesty? I LOVE legs and oral sex. Some girls say they don’t want to do things on dates because it’s whoreish or because they’ve put out and the guy never called them. Well guess what, you girls are no better! We guys spend our hard earned money on you, and you don’t call us back! There's nothing whoreish or wrong about fooling around as long as you two like one another. But girls say "you risk stds that way", which is an excuse. Did you and your ex's ever get tested? Probably not, so how do you know he’s clean? Lastly, stop being co ckteasers (like sucking on a guy's finger then stopping.) No, finish what you start.
#13: You can’t expect a spark, connection, chemistry (words you all love to use, yet can’t define lol) on a first date. Were you and your best friend, best friends right away? Of course not. Again, the more you chill with someone, the more attractive they become. First dates are supposed to be weird and awkward; you're hanging out with someone you barely know! Speaking of words, girls say it’s about confidence (even though girls lack it), yet none of them can tell us what 'confidence' means lol. They're just in love with "saying" those words. It’s simple: If he's hot, there's a connection lol.
#14: This is very important: Girls want a "man". Well guess what, men want a "woman". No girl wants a guy who knits, sews, bakes cakes, watches/enjoys cheerleading, flowers, etc, right? Well no man wants a girl who drinks like a fish, has a sailor mouth, watches/enjoys ufc (or does that), or acts all tough. You're not impressing "good" guys by being into that stuff. Females are becoming more un-lady like, and it’s a big reason why relationships don’t last as long and aren’t as healthy as they used to be. Sure, guys will date those kinds of girls (for ass), but they wont commit to them (unless it’s for ass). You want us to act like men? Well you act like women. Girls wonder if there's any good guys left, well we guys wonder if there's any "women" left lol.
#15: Girls are difficult and complicated. I know so many girls who refuse to chill with girls because "they are too difficult" (there’s a reason most world and company leaders aren’t women, lol). Girls expect too much out of life, relationships and people, whereas guys are simple. Guys can sit around all week watching TV and talking, and they’ll still call each other the next day. But girls? You won’t hear from her after the first day if you do that lol. Ladies, the world isn’t going anywhere! No guy is going to get in debt and take you out everyday.
16: You want to know what pleases men? Food, football, and women. Make us lunch, put on our football game (watch it with us as long as you're not whiny), and when the game is over put on a cute outfit and take us upstairs, that’s it! But women; you have to take them out everyday, make a picnic, buy flowers, buy a necklace, go here, go there...yikes! Here's a rule: If you won’t act/dress like a Victoria's Secret girl, don’t expect us men to act/dress like soap opera guys.
#17: Think "realistically". Everyone wants to be with someone who's gorgeous and amazing in bed. But realistically, 85% of people wont. Until you learn to accept that, you'll be disappointed. Also, get used to sitting around doing nothing, because that's how relationships/marriages are after a few months. Actually, girls dont mind sitting around doing nothing, as long as their boyfriend is hot lol. This is why I say: Girls aren’t in love; they’re in love with the "thought" of being in love. They don’t want love; they want excitement (which are two different things lol). Be realistic.
#18: When men get older, they do start getting serious about life, money and their careers. Most young people treat life like it’s a joke, then they get older, see reality and go "oops!" At least men are smart enough to admit that they do stupid things, that their friends aren’t 'real friends', and that they’ll probably regret their actions in 20 years. Girls though, seriously think they’re going to be young and stupid forever lol. Kenya is a serious country (unfortunately), if you want to live life like it’s a huge party and joke forever, move to Europe. And it doesn’t matter what age you are, you can "live up" at any age.
#19: Girls say they want honesty, but guys can’t be honest. Every time a guy is honest with you, you call him a jerk. If he does the slightest thing wrong, he’s a jerk. If he says one bad thing about himself or life, he’s a negative pessimist. If he says one thing good about himself, he’s cocky. If he’s nice to you, he’s a pushover. If he doesn’t help you out one day, he’s a jerk. If a girl says bad things about guys, guys just laugh and play along. But if a guy says bad thing about girls, girls get bitchy and defensive (because they know it’s true). It's okay for girls to reject guys, but if a guy rejects a girl, it makes him a jerk who's only after sex. Wow, girls cannot handle rejection, can they?
#20: Men are more attracted to introverts. Extroverted girls, girls with big jobs and big cars are intimidating to guys (unless all he wants is sex). Sadly, nowadays more and more people get these big jobs and put those jobs ahead of their family and love. We guys would rather a sweet faithful housewife, than a girl who makes big bank, can’t shut up and is always out. It's funny how the "majority" of girls nowadays are big extroverts, highly educated, bar hoppers, or partiers. Hmm, I wonder why. This is why. You dont see "many" nerdy introverts in pubs, do you? Maybe that should tell you something..
#21: I love girls and their "omg live everyday like it’s your last". Umm, if today was your last day, you'd be having sex all day. Or "life’s too short". Umm, life is the longest thing you have, lol. Or how about the "I like to have fun sometimes!” I like to have fun everyday! Oh but "fun" doesn’t just mean 'drink, party, be wild and stupid' to some of us. Or, "I have the best friends ever!” Yeah, till you both have a crush on the same guy, or til you ditch the party scene (then see how many of your friends still talk to you). Speaking of friends, you're not approachable when you're with your friends.
#22: So you may be thinking, "what girl wants to date a guy who talks sh!t about girls?!” Well I guess you don’t want any guy then, because all guys do it, just not publicly. See, the more ignorant girls are, the more ass a guy gets, so guys want girls to be ignorant. And I don’t care if all of your friends are guys; guys say totally different things when just one girl is around, as opposed to when it’s all guys.
#23: I found an article by a dating expert. She says the best ways to see if a guy is a keeper are: He has his act together (isn't a party boy). He puts you first (like if he makes dinner, he asks which piece you want first). He's not afraid of your germs (if you get sick, he offers to come over and take care of you). He's a family man (cares about his/your family). He is a cheerleader for you. He listens to you and remembers the little things (like how did your work meeting go?). Seeing you happy, makes him happy. He compromises, doesn't point the finger and yell. Hmm, sounds like a "Nice Guy", you know, the kinds you reject and criticize all the time? Lol. Maybe I’m wrong about all of this, but there's a reason why so many of you have been here forever and still single.
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Reasons to Wake up early.
1. Work on yourself
Early morning is an excellent time for personal development. How many times you complained you don’t have time to read that self-improvement book? Read it in the morning! Quiet morning time is a god sent gift which you should use for growing yourself – professionally, emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually. Use this time to “sharpen the saw”.
2. Exercise your body
Do I really need to comment it? Exercise at home, go jogging or go to gym (they open early)…
3. Get ready for big stuff
Clean up small stuff to take it from your way to big things you plan to do during the day. Jump on that bunch of emails sitting in your inbox so it doesn’t drag your attention later in the day.
4. Increase your productivity
If you start early, you make your day longer, you can do much more in one day than you usually do. Got a lot of work pressing on you? Wake up earlier, jump to work, you may be done by the afternoon…
5. Use morning time for thinking
Jim Citrin wrote: “The quiet of the morning is often the time when your mind is at its clearest and most well-suited to solving important problems”. Read his article Tapping the Power of Your Morning Routine to get more insight on how valuable morning time can be. In the same article Jim reports that 80% of executives he questioned wake up at 5:30am or earlier.
6. Go with the nature
The nature wakes up every day when the sun goes up. So should you because your body is a part of the nature! Of course it depends at what time sun goes up in your area (in some areas, it doesn’t go down for half a year :-) , but you have got the idea…
7. Medidate
Meditation induces well-being and emotional balance. If you start your day with meditation you will carry that balance through the day, improving your life. Morning is a better time for meditation because you are fresh, your brain is relaxed and mind is much sharper.
8. Beat the traffic
If you spend too much time commuting to and from work every day, you can actually save time if you wake up and drive to work earlier. Even if you work fixed hours, by arriving to work earlier you can spend the extra time you’ve got on things listed above – reading, exercising, planning, and so on. It’s free time for you, which otherwise you would waste in traffic jams.
Early morning is an excellent time for personal development. How many times you complained you don’t have time to read that self-improvement book? Read it in the morning! Quiet morning time is a god sent gift which you should use for growing yourself – professionally, emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually. Use this time to “sharpen the saw”.
2. Exercise your body
Do I really need to comment it? Exercise at home, go jogging or go to gym (they open early)…
3. Get ready for big stuff
Clean up small stuff to take it from your way to big things you plan to do during the day. Jump on that bunch of emails sitting in your inbox so it doesn’t drag your attention later in the day.
4. Increase your productivity
If you start early, you make your day longer, you can do much more in one day than you usually do. Got a lot of work pressing on you? Wake up earlier, jump to work, you may be done by the afternoon…
5. Use morning time for thinking
Jim Citrin wrote: “The quiet of the morning is often the time when your mind is at its clearest and most well-suited to solving important problems”. Read his article Tapping the Power of Your Morning Routine to get more insight on how valuable morning time can be. In the same article Jim reports that 80% of executives he questioned wake up at 5:30am or earlier.
6. Go with the nature
The nature wakes up every day when the sun goes up. So should you because your body is a part of the nature! Of course it depends at what time sun goes up in your area (in some areas, it doesn’t go down for half a year :-) , but you have got the idea…
7. Medidate
Meditation induces well-being and emotional balance. If you start your day with meditation you will carry that balance through the day, improving your life. Morning is a better time for meditation because you are fresh, your brain is relaxed and mind is much sharper.
8. Beat the traffic
If you spend too much time commuting to and from work every day, you can actually save time if you wake up and drive to work earlier. Even if you work fixed hours, by arriving to work earlier you can spend the extra time you’ve got on things listed above – reading, exercising, planning, and so on. It’s free time for you, which otherwise you would waste in traffic jams.
Monday, November 16, 2009
Cathars and Cathar Beliefs
The Cathars were a religious group who appeared in Europe in the eleventh century, their origins something of a mystery though there is reason to believe their ideas came from Persia by way of the Byzantine Empire, the Balkans and Northern Italy. Records from the Roman Catholic Church mention them under various names and in various places. Catholic theologians debated with themselves for centuries whether Cathars were Christian heretics or whether they were not Christians at all. The question is apparently still open. Roman Catholics still refer to Cathar belief as "the Great Heresy" though the official Catholic position is that Catharism is not Christian at all.
Cathars believed in two principles, a good creator god and his evil adversary (much like God and Satan of mainstream Christianity). Cathars called themselves Christians; their neighbours distinguished them as "Good Christians". The Catholic Church called them Albigenses, or less frequently Cathars.
Cathars maintained a Church hierarchy and practiced a range of ceremonies, but rejected any idea of priesthood or the use of church buildings. They divided into ordinary believers who led ordinary medieval lives and an inner Elect of Parfaits (men) and Parfaites (women) who led extremely ascetic lives yet still worked for their living - generally in itinerant manual trades like weaving. Cathars believed in reincarnation and refused to eat meat or other animal products. They were strict about biblical injunctions - notably those about living in poverty, not telling lies, not killing and not swearing oaths.
Basic Cathar tenets led to some surprising logical implications. For example they largely regarded men and women as equals, and had no doctrinal objection to contraception, euthanasia or suicide. In some respects the Cathar and Catholic Churches were polar opposites.For example the Cathar Church taught that all non-procreative sex was better than any procreative sex. The Catholic Church taught - and still teaches - exactly the opposite. Both positions produced interesting results. Following their tenet, Catholics concluded that masturbation was a far greater sin than rape, as mediaeval penitentials confirm. Following their principles, Cathar could deduce that sexual intercourse between man and wife was more culpable than homosexual sex.
Cathars believed in two principles, a good creator god and his evil adversary (much like God and Satan of mainstream Christianity). Cathars called themselves Christians; their neighbours distinguished them as "Good Christians". The Catholic Church called them Albigenses, or less frequently Cathars.
Cathars maintained a Church hierarchy and practiced a range of ceremonies, but rejected any idea of priesthood or the use of church buildings. They divided into ordinary believers who led ordinary medieval lives and an inner Elect of Parfaits (men) and Parfaites (women) who led extremely ascetic lives yet still worked for their living - generally in itinerant manual trades like weaving. Cathars believed in reincarnation and refused to eat meat or other animal products. They were strict about biblical injunctions - notably those about living in poverty, not telling lies, not killing and not swearing oaths.
Basic Cathar tenets led to some surprising logical implications. For example they largely regarded men and women as equals, and had no doctrinal objection to contraception, euthanasia or suicide. In some respects the Cathar and Catholic Churches were polar opposites.For example the Cathar Church taught that all non-procreative sex was better than any procreative sex. The Catholic Church taught - and still teaches - exactly the opposite. Both positions produced interesting results. Following their tenet, Catholics concluded that masturbation was a far greater sin than rape, as mediaeval penitentials confirm. Following their principles, Cathar could deduce that sexual intercourse between man and wife was more culpable than homosexual sex.
Friday, October 23, 2009
PLEASURES OF MEMORY
Hail! Memory hail! In thy exhaustless mine,
From age to age unnumbre'd treasures shine,
Thought & her shadowy brood they call obey,
And place & time are subject to thy sway,
Thy pleasures most we feel when most alone,
The only pleasures we call our own,
Lighter than air, hope's summer-visions die,
If but a fleeting cloud obscure the sky,
If but a beam of sober reasons play,
Lo! Fancy's fairy frost-work melts away,
But can the wiles of art the grasp of power,
Snatch the relics of a well spent hour,
These when the trembling spirit wings her flight,
pour round her path a stream of living light,
And gild those pure and perfect realms of rest,
Where virtue triumphs and her sons are blest!
From age to age unnumbre'd treasures shine,
Thought & her shadowy brood they call obey,
And place & time are subject to thy sway,
Thy pleasures most we feel when most alone,
The only pleasures we call our own,
Lighter than air, hope's summer-visions die,
If but a fleeting cloud obscure the sky,
If but a beam of sober reasons play,
Lo! Fancy's fairy frost-work melts away,
But can the wiles of art the grasp of power,
Snatch the relics of a well spent hour,
These when the trembling spirit wings her flight,
pour round her path a stream of living light,
And gild those pure and perfect realms of rest,
Where virtue triumphs and her sons are blest!
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Take time to develop your talents.
The deepest personal defeat suffered by human beings is constituted by the difference between what one was capable of becoming and what one has actually become. Ever heard that we are all born original and die photocopies? Well, that is what happens if you do not develop your uniqueness; basically your talents.There is a difference between simply existing and truly living,simply surviving and really thriving.
There is a huge treasure in everyone of us, and its only the bearer that can develop that into tangible results that make our lives and even lives of those that we relate to better. Do not spend time thinking about your weaknesses, rather, concentrate on your strengths and how your can make that even stronger.
The weakest among us has a gift, however seemingly trivial,which is peculiar to him and which worthily used will be a gift also to his race.
So go on, take your time to develop what you got. And bear in mind that the first step is finding out what it is!
There is a huge treasure in everyone of us, and its only the bearer that can develop that into tangible results that make our lives and even lives of those that we relate to better. Do not spend time thinking about your weaknesses, rather, concentrate on your strengths and how your can make that even stronger.
The weakest among us has a gift, however seemingly trivial,which is peculiar to him and which worthily used will be a gift also to his race.
So go on, take your time to develop what you got. And bear in mind that the first step is finding out what it is!
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